As a parent, you can’t help but to live a little vicariously through your children. After all, you are responsible for them. Their accomplishments make you proud. Their wounds hurt you. But for a mom, it is so much more than “we gave birth” to them. There is an invisible umbilical cord that is never severed, though instead of providing life to the child, it sustains life for the mother. Take it away and we no longer possess the ability to function independently.
As our children grow up, every decision they make, people reflect onto the mother. Nobody, more so, than the mother herself. As the child pulls away, makes decisions on their own, the mother feels solely responsible. She questions every decision she ever made. Her nights are spent lying awake thinking “if I had only done that”, ” what did I do wrong”, “how did I fail”.
It’s almost impossible for the mother to come to terms with the inevitable fact that “children, as they grow, make their own choices in life”. They too must learn by their own experiences and mistakes. All we can do is stand there feeling helpless while wanting desperately to save them. Then along comes the lesson of tough love. I always thought this applied to the child. Instead, it is a final lesson for the mother. It’s the hardest test we’ve ever been faced with. There’s no study guide, no manual to look back on, we didn’t take notes to prepare ourselves for this and nobody told us that everything we taught our children would be a Final Exam that we had to receive a 100% on.
RaenellDawn 01/28/2016
Category: Awareness
So many fear Pandora’s box, opening a can of worms, and rocking the boat. These are the ones that are shallow. The ones that say “I’m an open book”, but in truth, the book is a locked diary. The ones that are about pretense and shy away from exposure. The ones that view honesty as admitting to what is already known facts, not secrets disclosed and loyalty is just “what they don’t know, can’t hurt them”.
The definition of honor is lost. It’s a defined line, not a blurred one.
Relationships of any kind, with anyone, require full disclosure and authenticity.
You must place more value and effort on strengthening and maintaining these relationships in order to achieve the highest form of bonding and intimacy.
Who really doesn’t crave or acknowledge the NEED to have absolute faith?
RaenellDawn 08/16/2017